You’ve touched on what is easily the most difficult part of our role. It is a constant tightrope walk.

I think the key is remembering the core nature of guardianship: we are here to guide, warn, and help them understand the consequences of their actions, but we cannot live their lives for them. As long as their choices are legal, it is often crucial to let them experience the natural consequences of their decisions. We won't be there forever, and learning to navigate risk is a vital part of growing up.

However, when it comes to illegal or dangerous behavior, the boundary changes. Because they are minors, their actions carry legal implications—not just for them, but potentially for us as their legal representatives. Protecting yourself legally is necessary so you can continue to be an effective advocate; you never want your silence to be misconstrued as complicity.

When facing these dilemmas, lean heavily on the professional network around the minor, like social workers and reception center staff. Together, you can evaluate the educational impact of your next steps—asking whether a formal report to public authorities or a coordinated internal strategy with their care team is what will truly help them understand the gravity of their choices.

Hang in there! The fact that you are wrestling with these questions shows how deeply you care about doing right by the minor.

Good luck!

Matteo
Guardian in Florence (IT)

Unfortunately, the situation in Italy is no different from Belgium when it comes to accessing psychological support. Whenever I’ve needed it for the minors under my guardianship, I’ve had to turn to voluntary associations that provide this service. Their waiting lists are quite long, but still shorter than the public health service.

Good luck!

Matteo
Guardian, Florence (IT)